One of the conflicts most often brought to my office is about the division of labor in the family. Pain and resentment can accumulate and run deep over who does what around the home, and with the children.  Partners can feel devalued, and taken advantage of.   Particularly with both partners working outside of the home, the question arises: What does it take to make a family household run?  Some years ago, I became aware of the notions of physical labor …